Walking down the Aisle: He said, she said!
Thursday’s RRShow featured a couple who have different ideas on Marriage. He wants too, she is content to live together with their son. It touched home a bit for me as Nikki mentioned how everyone was constantly asking her “You have a child! Why aren’t you getting married?”
It’s a hard question to answer, and I should know - I ‘did things backwards’ myself! My son was a year old when he was the ring bearer at my wedding to his daddy! I understand where both Nikki and Steve are coming from, as I lived it back then. She says it’s just a piece of paper, and they are already committed, he says he would like that piece of paper anyway.
For once in forever, I actually agree with the suggestions the Expert, Deborah Tannen and Rachel ended the segment with: Keep the communication open, talk about it every 3 or 6 months or so, and re-evaluate. Don’t keep harping at each other, and perhaps they will eventually make that trip down the Aisle.
More power to ya, guys! As someone who’s been there, done that, I’m pulling for ya! So, what do you all think? Is marriage just a piece of paper, or the ultimate commitment? Did you get cold feet before you made that trip down the aisle? Did it last seconds, minutes, hours, years? ‘Fess up!
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April 21st, 2007 at 1:59 am
piece of paper=commitment?
the commitment comes before the paper -
but the paper is VERY important in a lot of cases - legal implications (custody of children, death of spouse, etc.)
My piece of paper is almost 38 years old - it would have been so easy to walk long before this - without that piece of paper. Having it made us stop and think more than once and reconfirm the commitment - whether it was on one side or both, it matters little. My commitment is strong.
love you, my girl
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